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You Get What You Give ~ Learn the Teachings, Tools and Techniques to Live an Easy, Peaceful Life of Joy right Now ~

by Ray Diaz


Part One

Peace or Happiness?
What is Karma?
The Science of Karma
The Karmic Cycle
Breaking the Karmic Cycle
Right and Wrong
Fake it Till You Make it
The Compass
You Get What You GIve

Part Two

Mindful Meditation
– What’s happening Now?
– Watch what you’re doing
– Walking Meditation
Nine Deep Breaths to Peace
How to use Mala Beads for Meditation
Suggested Reading


“He who experiences the unity of life sees his own self in all beings, and all beings within himself, and looks on everything with an impartial eye.” – The Buddha

I have an important message for you, and the core of the message is this:

Your life does not have to be a struggle. You can live a peaceful and easy life – a happy, peaceful walk in the park, so to speak…

With the tools I reveal to you iun this book, you will gain control over your whole life, even your future lives!

Understanding how Life really works, will quickly free you from the hidden negative energies that affect your life without you even noticing it.

The information I’m about to share with you took many years of study and metitation to find, understand so I could then apply it in a simple and practical way. Applying this information has turned my life (and the lives of many, many oithers), into a peaceful, easy and enjoyable existance – it flipped the coin from a life of struggle, to a life of ease and joy.

These priciples, layed out in detail here not difficult to apply, and they are all completely revealed – everything is exposed and nothing is left out.

To make things even easier for you, this book is laid out in two parts: Part One is Theory and Part Two is Practice. After you you understand the theory (ALL the ideas and principles), you will learn many practical, simple, yet powerful tools and techniques that will allow you to not only walk the path, live the path. In other words, if you’re going to talk the talk, you’ve got to be able to walk the walk. And this book will teach you exactly that.

It is my sincere and heartfelt intention that you learn and practice these valuable principles techniques and apply them to your life so you can start living a life of peace, happiness and abundance, from here on out.

I also hope that you will share what you learn with others, so we can turn this existance into a peaceful and easy life of joy for every being on our planet. This may sound like a very ambitious goal, but I know that after you read this book, you will see that it is possible to attain since its not very difficult to live a peaceful life when you see and understand how it really works.

Easy to read and full of real-life techniques, this book has all the information you need to start changing your life for the better and start living in peace right here, right now – not in future lives or other-worldly realms, so let’s get started!

Chapter One – Peace or Happiness?

“Happiness is man’s nature. You need not worry about happiness at all, it is already there. It is in your heart — you just have to stop being unhappy, you have to stop the mechanism functioning that creates unhappiness.” – Osho

Ask anyone what they want most in life and the number one answer will be “Happiness.”

Alright, maybe the number one answer will be “Money,” but that’s only because most people believe that having lots of money will automatically bring them never-ending happiness.

Everyone wants to be happy, and the things that they think will bring them that happiness will be as varied as the people you ask. Some believe that the perfect relationship will make them happy, others a good job or lots of money, but what most people don’t not stay, and it cannot last.

Happiness is an emotion , not a state of being.

Get a new job, a new relationship, or tons of money, and you’ll feel happy for as long as the situation or thing feels new and exciting…

But after while, the new car doesn’t feel so new anymore. You get used to it, and you start looking for another one that’s even better than the one you got just a few weeks ago.

Here’s a story: A friend of mine, when people would walk him over to show off their shiny new car, he’d look at them very seriously and say, “Wow. Cool man! Did you make it? ” – in other words, what’s so special about a new car?

Things in the Physical Universe do not last, and the positive emotions one gets from them is as lasting as an ice cube sitting in the pavement, sunbathing at high noon.

Aside from this short-lived high, the other problem with relying on external possessions for happiness is the problem of fear – fear that the new car may get scratched, stolen, crashed into.

Fear that you’ll loose the money it’s taken so long to save. Fear that your new sweetheart will leave you for someone else, for someone younger, richer, more interesting… get the picture?

Possessions cannot guarantee happiness – not in a million years – the opposite is actually the case. Nothing guarantees happiness and no thing can make happiness stay with you, permanently and unchanged even for a little while. Happiness is not a thing, it’s an emotion. It changes with each mood swing, with each shift in situation, like the ebb and flow of the tide, because it is an emotion, it’s volatile, capricious, wavering and fickle.

Now, Peace is much different.

Peace is the lack of negative emotions, lack of agitation, consternation, anxiety, distress, dismay…

Peace is Equanimity: mental calmness and composure.

Peace can stay unwavering even in the midst of chaos.

Peace is being calm and still when everyone around you is in turmoil.

Peace is being in the Center of the Cyclone.

Here’s a little experiment:

Fill a bowl with water, but not all the way to the top. Leave some wiggle room for the water to move.

Take the bowl in your hands and make the water sway around or back and forth in a pleasing rhythmic manner. The rhythmic sway represents happiness, like a baby swaying in her mother’s arms…

In little time you’ll notice that it’s not so easy to keep this nice swaying motion for long without spilling some water, and chances are that when you do spill some of it, you’ll react by jerking the bowl which will spill even more water, making it very turbulent – Not pleasing or happy anymore, is it?

Now, take the bowl with the still turbulent water, and set it on a table or floor and leave it alone for a bit… Without doing anything at all, you’ll notice that the turbulent water will calm down pretty quickly and in just a few moments it will become completely still – completely at Peace.

In fact, no matter how much you agitate it, if you set it on a level and unmoving surface, the water will calm itself down, level out and become completely still until something or someone agitates it again.

Nothing is needed for water to regain its peaceful state. In fact, many things can agitate it, but simply leaving it be will bring it back to its natural state of calmness and peace. This is why Lao Tzu said “Be like Water.”

Water takes the shape of any container it’s poured into. It will flow around any obstacle or even flow through it! It can penetrate many solid objects like rocks. It will always find it’s level and if left alone, it will always become perfectly still, calm and peaceful.

The true masters in the art of living are even more efficient than water because no one can agitate them. No one can shake them and push them out of their center. They truly are at the Center of the Cyclone at all times – no matter how chaotic their environment may be.

They don’t keep going back to center – they’re simply never pushed out of center in the first place.

They practice “Mind over Matter:” if they don’t mind , it doesn’t matter – and they do not mind because they have no mind controlling them, making them react, taking over… They are in a state of No-Mind.

Now, even though you’re not a Master yet, you should still strive for Peace, but not for Happiness because peace will bring a happiness that does not change, that does not waver at all.

Even though peace will not give you an ecstatic feeling of elation, it generates a balanced state of contentment that does not depend on any thing or situation in order to exist and maintain itself, because it is your true nature and its source is already within you. More precisely, you are peace! Karma is closely related to peace and escaping its mechanism is a very important step towards attaining and maintaining a true peaceful state of being – so let’s continue…

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Nine Deep Breaths to Peace


Nine Deep Breaths to Peace – the 9 to 1 Technique
It’s now common knowledge that the mind affects the body in many powerful, and sometimes negative ways. A stressed mind can literally sicken the body to the point of killing it by stroke or other illnesses. And we’re not talking about imagined illnesses either – New studies have even found links between stress and some forms of Cancer, so the relationship of mind over matter is much more direct and solid than most scientists were willing to accept.

But now, scientific studies have found a direct connection between thoughts and emotions and the stress hormone cortisol. It has now been proven that stress causes changes in hormones that in turn lowers the body’s immune system which causes people to get sick.

The old Masters have long understood the subtle and direct link between the Breath, the Mind, and the Body, and they tell us that when the Mind gets agitated, the Breath becomes shallow, fast, and short, and the Body becomes tense.

One important lesson the old Masters taught was that the reverse is also true: that if your mind is agitated and you slow down your breathing, your mind and body relax.

So the next time you feel angry, agitated, nervous, or just not-peaceful, use the simple 9 to 1 Technique:

Sit down if you can and close your eyes… then simply count from nine to one, taking a deep breath in and another deep breath out with each count. You don’t have to do anything but count each deep breath from 9 to 1 and when you count to 1, I guarantee that you’ll feel much more calm and relaxed than before.

When you get to 1, keep breathing at the rate that your body wants to breathe without controlling it. You’ll notice that it will now be an easy, slow, smooth and peaceful rhythm. Sit as long as you wish and enjoy your peace for as long as you like and then open your eyes and continue with your day.

This Tool alone can truly change your life as this is something you can do anytime anywhere. Even if you couldn’t find a place to sit, you could do it standing up, and if you can’t or don’t want to close your eyes, you can still do the 9 to 1 count-down with eyes open with good results.

You can use this method right before an important meeting or phone call, and if a phone call gets too stressful, you can tell the person you’ll have to call him back, or put him on hold, then do your 9 to 1 Technique and continue the call in a much more peaceful mood.

You may be thinking, “Why count from nine and not ten, or another number?” – Because nine slow deep breaths add up to about one and a half minutes, which has been found to be just the right amount of time to create the desired effect of calming your mind.

You could count from ten or more, but there is no need. Also, psychologically, counting down (9 to 1) calms the mind faster and more effectively than counting up (1 to 9). Your mind naturally associates counting downwards with relaxation and upwards with rousing, or waking up. We naturally count from 1 to 3 to start a race, for example.

Also, the number Nine is considered an auspicious number in Buddhism and traditional Buddhist Prayer Beads have 108 beads.

The number 108 can be broken down as (1 + 0 + 8 = 9)

Number 1 stands for God (Universal Consciousness), Higher Self, Truth

Number 0 stands for emptiness or completeness,

8 stands for infinity or eternity.

According to neuro-scientist Jill Bolte, any emotion that rises up within you only lasts 1.5 minutes – ninety seconds, (or 9 slow, deep breaths), but we prolong that time for as long as we feed it with our thoughts.

Here’s how it works: You get a negative emotion, so you start analyzing it, trying to figure out how to resolve it when in truth, the best thing you could do is nothing – just let it go. For example, you get a negative emotion, and you ignore it. You keep going about your business and it will fall away by itself. But as hard as it is to not scratch an itch, it may seem even harder not to start thinking about, (and trying to resolve) the negative emotion that just turned up.

The fact that many negative emotions begin with a thought or decision can make it much harder to realize that your mind is the one fueling the negative emotions and keeping them alive.

Imagine that your attention is energy, and this energy fuels the negative emotion simply by your connecting that energy to it and “linking” the energy source to it. Your attention is fuel for your thoughts and emotions as electricity is to a light bulb. The more you pay attention to the negative thought or emotion, the stronger it gets, and if you bring it out into the world by talking about it, it will get even stronger.

Sometimes you don’t even realize you were taken away for a mental ride until minutes, hours or even days have passed…

Here’s where the 9 to 1 Technique comes in:

Simply by counting 9 deep breaths, you disengage from the thought-stream that is trying to take you for a ride. Those 9 deep breaths bring you back to the present moment of now and pull you out of your mind long enough for that negative emotion to vanish on it’s own.

You don’t do anything to make the negative emotion go away, you simply ignore it long enough so it falls away by itself, naturally, and the 9 to 1 Technique is a very simple and powerful tool to do this.

But don’t let its simplicity fool you into thinking it’s not powerful. The most powerful tools are the simplest.  The Buddha became enlightened with the simplest tool: Watching His Breath…


See also: Mindfulness Meditation


less is MORE

Less is more – the minimalist mantra made famous by architect Ludwig Mies van der Rohe as the ruling principle for his minimalist design could very well be confused for a Zen Koan.

It’s simple, catchy and true.

But you, my young grasshopper, may ask, “How can the simplicity of having less give me more? This makes no sense!”

I shall demonstrate…

Most of us will agree to the fact that we own way too much stuff, and most of these things go above and beyond our basic life’s necessities.

Each thing you own begs to be stored, cleaned, maintained and more, and most people don’t take this into consideration when they decide to get their greedy hands on new things.

That shiny new car becomes a burden when it’s time to clean it, have its oil changed, take it to the mechanic, and more. Then, with each car payment, you start to feel resentment, regret and bitterness toward it, almost as if it was an estranged lover.

The more exotic the car, the more expensive it is to maintain – not to mention the fear and anxiety of having it crashed into, stolen or worse.

You may have bought that printer at sale price, but you’ll be paying out of the wazoo for the ink or toner – maintenance costs.

Let’s say you go nuts and give away all the stuff in your house, you still have to pay to heat, cool, paint, clean all that empty space.

But people are waking up!

People have come to realize that they’ve been duped by the consumerist mind control of the powers that be. They have come to understand that the more crap you have, the more you are a slave to them.

While you may think that you own all this stuff, stuff ends up owning you.

Now, don’t go crazy on me and sell everything and run naked into the wild…

Balance is key.

Things are neither good nor bad – they just are. It is we who must find the balance between what we want and what we really need.

Next time you hold that shinny new something in your hands that gives you that warm fuzzy feeling, remember that you’ll have to store it, clean it, maintain it, and so on.

Also ask yourself, “Do I really need this, or am I letting my emotions sweep me away here?”

Even if it’s a cheap thing, do you really need it? Will it end up just taking up space, both physical and mental? Because that’s another thing… Objects take up more than physical space and energy, they take up mental “space” and mental, emotional and spiritual energy. There is spiritual energy attached and “stuck” to each and every one of your your things. These things occupy your thoughts, even if at a subconscious level, and stress you out, weighing heavily on your peace of mind.

Compare a river battling many rocks in its path, clashing and trashing to move ahead with the clean, gentle flow of another one with no obstacles in its path. Keeping our environment clean and clear of extraneous junk, gives a calm and peaceful flow to our lives.

So here’s the simple equation:

less Stuff = MORE Peace! [ less IS more ]

More free time.

More peace of mind.

More spiritual equanimity.

More/smoother flow…

Simple + Life = Peace

The Book of Nothing

The Great Way is not difficult for those who have no preferences.

When love and hate are both absent everything becomes clear and undisguised.

Make the smallest distinction, however, and heaven and earth are set infinitely apart.

If you wish to see the truth then hold no opinion for or against.

The struggle of what one likes and what one dislikes is the disease of the mind.

When the deep meaning of things is not understood the mind’s essential peace is disturbed to no avail.

The way is perfect like vast space where nothing is lacking and nothing is in excess.

Indeed, it is due to our choosing to accept or reject that we do not see the true nature of things.

Live neither in the entanglements of outer things, nor in inner feelings of emptiness.

Be serene without striving activity in the oneness of things and such erroneous views will disappear by themselves.

When you try to stop activity to achieve passivity your very effort fills you with activity.

As long as you remain in one extreme or the other you will never know Oneness.

Those who do not live in the Single Way fail in both activity and passivity, assertion and denial.

To deny the reality of things is to miss their reality; to assert the emptiness of things is to miss their reality.

The more you talk and think about it, the further astray you wander from the truth.

Stop talking and thinking and there is nothing you will not be able to know.

To return to the Root is to find the meaning, but to pursue appearances is to miss the Source.

At the moment of Inner Enlightenment there is a going beyond appearance and emptiness.

The changes that appear to occur in the empty world we call real only because of our ignorance.

Do not search for the Truth; only cease to hold opinions.

Do not remain in the dualistic state – avoid such pursuits carefully.

If there is a trace of this and that, of right and wrong, the Mind-Essence will be lost in confusion.

Although all dualities come from the One, do not be attached even to this One.

“When mind exists undisturbed in The Way, nothing in the world can offend, and when a thing can no longer offend, it ceases to exist in the old way.

When no discriminating thoughts arise, the old mind ceases to exist.

When thought objects vanish, the thinking subject vanishes, as when the mind vanishes, objects vanish.

Things are objects because of the subject – the mind is such because of things.

Understand the relativity of these two and the basic reality: the unity of emptiness.

In this Emptiness the two are indistinguishable and each contains in itself the whole world.

If you do not discriminate between coarse and fine, you will not be tempted to prejudice and opinion.

To live in the Great Way is neither easy nor difficult, but those with limited views are fearful and irresolute.

The faster they hurry, the slower they go, and clinging cannot be limited.

Even to be attached to the idea of Enlightenment is to go astray.

Just let things be in their own way and there will be neither coming nor going.

Obey the nature of things (your own nature), and you will walk freely and undisturbed.

When thought is in bondage the Truth is hidden, for everything is murky and unclear, and the burdensome practice of judging brings annoyance and weariness.

What benefit can be derived from distinctions and separations?

If you wish to move in the One Way, do not dislike even the world of senses and ideas.

Indeed, to accept them fully is identical with True Enlightenment.

The wise man strives for no goals but the foolish man fetters himself.

There is one Dharma, Truth, Law, not many – distinctions arise from the clinging needs of the ignorant.

To seek Mind with the discriminating mind is the greatest of all mistakes.

Rest and unrest derive from illusion.

With enlightenment there is no liking and disliking.

All dualities come from ignorant inference.

They are like dreams or flowers in the air – the foolish try to grasp them.

Gain and loss, right and wrong – such thoughts must finally be abolished at once.

If the eye never sleeps, all dreams will naturally cease.

If the mind makes no discrimination, the Ten Thousand Things are as they are, of Single Essence.

To understand the mystery of this One-Essence is to be released from all entanglements.

When all things are seen equally the timeless Self-Essence is reached.

No comparisons or analogies are possible in this causeless, relationless state.

Consider movement stationary and the stationary in motion, and both the state of movement and the state of rest disappear.

When such dualities cease to exist, Oneness itself cannot exist.

To this ultimate finality no law or description applies.

For the unified mind in accord with the Way all self-centered striving ceases.

Doubts and irresolutions vanish and life in true faith is possible.

With a single stroke we are freed from bondage – nothing clings to us and we hold nothing.

All is empty, clear, self-illuminating, with no exertion of the mind’s power.

Here thought, feeling, knowledge, and imagination are of no value.

In this world of Suchness there is neither self nor other-than-self.

To come directly into harmony with this reality, just simply say when doubts arise, “Not Two.”

In this “Not Two” nothing is separate, nothing is excluded.

No matter when or where, Enlightenment means entering this truth.

And this truth is beyond extension or diminution in time or space; in it a single thought is ten thousand years.

Emptiness here, Emptiness there, but the Infinite Universe stands always before our eyes.

Infinitely large and infinitely small – no difference, for definitions have vanished and no boundaries are seen.

So too with Being and Non-Being.

Don’t waste time in doubts and arguments that have nothing to do with this.

One thing, all things, move among and intermingle without distinction.

To live in this realization is to be without anxiety about non-perfection.

To live in this faith is the road to non-duality, because the non-dual is one with the trusting mind.


The Way is beyond language, for in it there is no yesterday…

no tomorrow…

no today…

“Hsin Hsin Ming – The Book of Nothing ~ Sosan.”